Chapter 5 dating versus biblical courtship
and many of the familiar landmarks were swept aside.
What they [modern daters] did was to develop a systematic, peer-controlled approach to the social and sexual relationships of late adolescence and early adulthood.’ Another secular source traces the transition from former courting models focused on the girl’s father, family and home environment: ‘after the Civil War, an elaborate system of rules governing courting emerged …
Many don’t know dating is relatively new, 80-90 yrs old in US, even newer in some similar cultures. Rothman (not a Christian) records the following in her book ‘A first-class revolt against the accepted American order took place among American youth in the 1920’s.
This was not a sudden eruption, but rather a series of seismic tremors that occurred with increasing intensity and frequency through the 1910’s and 1920’s.
Finding a mate functioned a lot more like a bartering system than dinner and a movie.
Some of the messages we've presented have taken the position that Christians can apply their faith in such a way that they can still work within the system they've inherited.
Other messages have stressed that Christians need to be much more counter-cultural.
Many want to know how they can go about getting to know someone and eventually getting married without getting hurt or compromising their faith.
At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area.